Obedience is hard. Before you rush down to the “add comment” button and type in “DUH!”, let me explain why I make such an obvious statement. The Holy Spirit has really been hammering on this topic in one particular are of my life – my relationship with my husband. The scriptures are very clear on a few things when it comes to a marriage relationship –
Eph. 5:22 says: Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. (This command also shows up again in Eph. 5:24 and Col. 3:18)
And Eph. 5: 33 reads: However, each one of you must also love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband (emphasis mine).
Argue with it, claim it’s sexist, tell me that there are “hidden meanings” – whatever. All I know is, my Heavenly Father has commanded me to submit to my husband and to show him UNCONDITIONAL respect. I see no clauses, no exceptions and I’ve decided to stop looking for them. But why is it still so hard to obey these commands?
Simple. A lack of faith combined with a severe case of selfishness. I don’t like admitting that. I’m a pastor’s wife, after all. I’m not supposed to have a weak faith! But if I believe that God gives good things to his children, if I believe that my Heavenly Father has put commands in place that will bless my life and not curse it, shouldn’t I want to obey? The fact is, I struggle most with these commands when I begin to worry about who is going to see that my needs get met. My husband needs my respect and he needs to know that I trust his position of authority in our home. When I focus on obeying my Father and meeting my husband’s need, there is peace! I cannot say that my needs are always perfectly met but I know that my Father is pleased with my behavior.
I am renewing a commitment to be submissive and respectful. Not because my husband is perfect, not out of a desire to get him to meet my needs, not even so other wives will think I’m self-sacrificing. I want to be obedient. What about you?