I’m stubborn. No surprise there to those that know me. And I am more than willing to argue the absolute dumbest things to death. In my house, this has become known as a “light bulb” moment. That name came from one of my kids who was courageous enough to point out the stupidity of a verbal battle hubby and I were engaged in.
But I’ve taken a good long – and not necessarily pleasant – look at some habits I need to change. I will tell you that you need to pick your battles because only some are worth fighting. My behavior tells a very different story.
My most common opponent is, unfortunately, my hubby. But I’m learning a lesson – slowly, but I’m learning it!! I don’t win ANYTHING when I compete with him over stupid things. As a matter of fact, I lose. I lose big.
I lose closeness, peace of mind, happiness, time I could be spending enjoying him . . . you get the idea.
So I’m turning in my uniform. Quitting whatever team it was that I am on. I will take a deep breath, think about whether or not I really want to fight over whatever particular issue we are facing and choose to work towards a solution WITHOUT trying to win anything.
It’s simple – the minute I start the battle, I’ve already lost.