It’s amazing what happens when you begin to embrace your gifts and how they help to define your identity.  It helps you say “yes” joyfully and “no” without guilt.

Let me explain – over the last few months, I’ve walked through a personal refining process where I have VERY clearly seen what is it I’m designed to do.  I’ve gotten a better grasp on what drives me than ever before.  It has allowed me to resign a position that completely misses the mark with a complete sense of peace.  Truthfully, it wasn’t that hard to do.  Working a job that completely misses that target as far as talent and passion go?  Really doesn’t build much into your life so it’s not terribly hard to walk away.  But I don’t regret the time because I learned things.  Lots of things.  About myself, about what matters to me, about what I want my energy and time to focus on.

Then I heard of a job opening in a field that I am qualified for.  The problem?  It’s a field that I have chosen to turn my focus from.  In other words, it’s not something I want to do with my life anymore.  In the past, I would have felt obligated to apply.  If I’m trained for the job and it’s available, I should want it, right?  Nope.  Not even a little bit.  That fact has often been true.  I applied because I felt I was supposed to, not because I wanted to.

Not this time.  This time I looked at the possibility and asked – “Does it line up with my passion?  Is it a part of what matters most to me?”  When the answer was no, then the decision was made.

My only regret is that it took me until the age of 45 to get to this place.  But at least I got here.

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  1. Simplemusings… I Luv this! Been there, Done that! My regret is that I learned it at the age of 65. One day I told my wife – I wish I knew 40 years ago what I know now. She replied: “Honey, what you have been through the past 40 years is what God has used to make you the man you are today.”

    6 years ago, I was in the darkest place of my life. Since then, God has turned that point of desperation into the greatest gift of my life. In the process, I discovered who God created me to be.

    He’s taught me the truth of these 5 steps:

    1)… God has designed each of us specifically for His Purpose.
    ….Discover His design in you!

    2)… Do ONE thing that fits your God-given gifts and abilities.

    3)… Do it, striving for excellence.

    4)… Do other things, as time allows.

    5)… If these other things interfere with the excellence of your Prime Purpose, those other things, no matter how good, are not God’s will for you.

    For the first time in my life I’ve discovered who God created me to be. For the first time in my life, (since the 6th grade) I’m at peace.

    The process of denying, of laying aside who I thought I was s’pose to be and stepping into what God created me to be has been scary, exciting, frustrating, ego-busting, humbling,… I could go on.

    I too, had to learn to say “No”. Since I did, (God taught me) I’m discovering my PASSION.

    U’ve touched me before with Ur posts. ThkQ for doing it again!!


    This post on my blog is part of His Process:


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