My father has been known to say “The truth will set you free. But first it will make you miserable.” Before you write that off as a bit cynical think for a moment. How many times have you had to admit that certain things were true even if you wish they weren’t? There are ugly, painful things in the personal history of every single human being. Heartbreak, dissapointment, loss, maybe even abuse of some kind. Even if the issue is DEEP in your past, the pain may make it feel like it all happened yesterday. And what if others who inflicted the pain have not apologized and it looks like they never will? Or maybe you’ve completely lost touch with the person so you simply can’t confront them.

How do you learn and grow from painful experiences that seem too much to face even years later? How do you forgive when there is no apology?

I know that this all sounds rather cryptic. But I’m at the “but first it will make you miserable” moment. I’ve named the issue and I’m ready to take the next step. Just not sure what that is. I’ll keep you posted.  Maybe.