I love this quote. Mostly because I’ve seen time and time again that it’s true.
I did something on a whim recently. There are a number of people using an app that allows people to anonymously tell you what they think of you. I haven’t been brave enough to try it myself. In the midst of all the friends that were posting their links for this app, I saw another post that intrigued me. It was a picture that simply said, “Comment your name & I’ll tell you one thing I like about you.” Now, I didn’t limit it to one thing in some cases. And I intentionally avoided things like “you’re pretty” or “you have a good fashion sense”. I tried to focus on character qualities I admired.
I posted it and the names slowly but surely started showing up. It was actually quite fun to respond to each person! Some of them I’ve known for years, some were family, some were students from my Michigan years, some were current FDSH students, . . . you get the idea.
What really struck me was some of the responses I got in return. Some told me that they needed the boost, others said they had been having a bad day and my comment made it better.
But let’s be clear – there is nothing unique about what I did. The compliments I gave were honest assessments of the best in those who I was speaking to. If others had given them, their power would not have been diminished a bit. Anyone can see the best in another and call it out.
I didn’t expect the impact it’s had on me. As I said before, some of those I was complimenting, I’ve known for years. Others? Not long at all. In some cases, just over a year. For those, it took a bit more careful thinking. All in all, I responded to 57 people. I had to spend time looking for the best in 57 individuals. Not a huge number, I’ll grant you, but it took time. And during that time, it kept my mind focused on finding the best in others.
So I cannot help but wonder – what would happen if we started giving just one sincere compliment to one person every day? What would it do for those around us? What would it do for our own attitudes and perspective? I would certainly love to find out!